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Transgender waitress Liv Hnilicka's response to curious kid goes viral

The all time best response to "Are you a boy or a girl?"

The all time best response to "Are you a boy or a girl?"



It could have been super awkward. Instead it became an earnest life moment that warmed the internet’s snark-encrusted heart.

Last Sunday, Liv Hnilicka went to work at a Minneapolis restaurant like any other day. As the transgender waitress filled a water station, the father of a little girl approached her with an unexpected request, which Hnilicka shared in a Facebook post.

“My daughter just asked if you were a boy or a girl,” he said. “I didn't want to speak for you so would you like to talk to her?”

Nervously, Hnilicka agreed and rolled over to the family’s table. The honest query from the mouth of a babe triggered a direct, articulate response that has since gone viral.

Stellar parenting moment of the day:This afternoon I was at my waitressing job on a beautiful early fall afternoon....


“Hi, I like your hair ribbon,” Hnilicka began. “I heard you asked if I was a boy or girl. I think the important thing to remember is that everyone can be anything they want to be in this world. And it's also important to try to be the best selves we can be for our family and friends. And even to strangers.

“So to answer your question, I was told that I was a boy when I was little and now I live my adult life as a girl. It sounds complicated but it's actually pretty simple.”

Any other questions?

“Nope!” replied the smiling girl, who sounds freakin’ adorable.

Hnilicka’s recap of what she dubbed a “stellar parenting moment” has been shared more than 1,600 times on Facebook. The candid waitress did not immediately respond to an interview request, but summed up the exchange thusly:

“I walked away from the table feeling really good about parents intentionally engaging their children about possibly difficult topics,” she wrote. “And showing that giving people the power to voice their truths in this complicated world is beautiful and healing.

“Way to go, mom and dads out there making space for transfolks/gnc people like me.”

Aw. Anybody else want a hug right now?

Maybe one day the inquisitive little cutie will grow up to work for the Orlando TSA. It sounds like they could use her.