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Rape culture, explained for the men who just can't get it

"It is the culture where we distrust the victim, claim they lie, blame them, shame them."

"It is the culture where we distrust the victim, claim they lie, blame them, shame them." David Shankbone

Reader Chantel Huston responds to Prior Lake grad Ben Sloan, charged in University of Minnesota molesation, was involved in 'vagina inspection' prank:

Ask a sister, a female friend, or girlfriend about rape culture and they'll explain it to you.

It is when we are taught that if a boy picks on you in school it is because he likes you.

It is when we are told boys will be boys when they snap our bra straps in middle school.

It is when we are told to yell fire if we are attacked so people will come help you, but they might not if you yell rape.

It is when a victim has to justify what they were wearing, how much they had to drink, and if they ever had sex before after being assaulted, because any of those things could be an excuse for the rapist.

It is the idea that women can't walk safely down the streets without people telling them to smile, letting them know if they are attractive, letting them know what type of sexual acts they want to do to them.

It is the culture where we distrust the victim, claim they lie, blame them, shame them. A culture that makes it so the majority of victims never come forward and those that do rarely see justice brought to their rapists even if the evidence is there. And the rapists convicted may spend just weeks in jail or get probation, because a judge doesn't want them to miss out on the college experience.