Mpls woman secretly records conversations with catcallers, posts video online [VIDEOS]
This guy told Lindsey, "Minnesota chicks are hot." Little did he know it was caught on tape.
Lindsey, the same 28-year-old woman who infamously called out a Minneapolis catcaller in an epic Cragslist Missed Connection ad last year, has upped her game.
She's now taken to secretly recording interactions with catcallers, then posting the clips online. At the conclusion of each interaction, she tries to give the men a card referring them to CardsAgainstHarassment.com. The banner of the website reads, "Being harassed by strangers isn't fun, but now, responding to street harassment can be."
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The site contains a number of downloadable cards with messages like, "Things that are not great about working downtown: harassment by total strangers" and, "Your mom... would be really disappointed to learn that she had raised a street harasser." (See all the designs at the end of this post.)
On the site's FAQ, Lindsey (as she's identified in a recent BuzzFeed report) asks herself: "What are you, a man-hating feminist prude?"
Here's her response:
Great question, friend. No. No, I am not. I am a sex-positive, friendly person who believes that non-harassing flirtation, courtship, and sex play a huge and healthy part in a person's quality of life. I am a feminist, but odds are, so is every person you've ever enjoyed spending time around, because that just means I believe women and men should have equal rights and opportunities and that men and women alike are worse off if we keep systems in place that perpetuate double standards or limitations for women, and people who don't support those basic principles are probably boring turds.
"At best, it's annoying. At worst, it makes women feel unsafe because it forces them to wonder: if this man feels entitled to comment on my appearance, what's to stop him from trying to touch me, or follow me?" she adds. "So no, it's not a compliment. If a woman tells you it's not a compliment and you persist in doing it you are being intentionally intimidating."
On the topic of what sort of street interactions are permissible, Lindsey writes, "Of course there are ways to approach women you're attracted to that aren't harassment, and ways to tell a woman you know that you think she's gorgeous. Initiating a conversation with someone you don't know and blurting out comments about their face or body isn't one of them."
"As one of my friends recently put it, when a conversation with an unknown guy centers on a woman's appearance, the conversation has become one that is 'about my body parts and that is such a minuscule part of the whole person that it makes me feel like there is a different intention in this conversation and one that I don't want to be a part of,'" she continues.
We touched base with Lindsey to see if she'd talk with us for this piece. She said she's scheduled to do an interview with Good Morning America and has agreed to exclusivity with them until the segment airs, but we agreed to talk after that happens.
Meanwhile, to see the videos Lindsay has been posting to YouTube this month, click to page two.
Here's one of a stranger calling Lindsey a bitch because, in his words, "you're sexy."
Here's another of two guys getting somewhat racist after being called out for their catcalling. One of the guys, somewhat implausibly, says he routinely gets catcalled by women while walking.
"If I walk down the f**king street, they gonna be pulling cars, like, 'Hey!' But I get offended because it be ugly-ass girls talking to me," he says.
This one shows a guy offering Lindsey a ride home. On the video's YouTube page, she writes: "Ah, Jared. Theologian. Constitutional Scholar. Smoker. Total Stranger. Our time together was so short tonight as I walked to my bus stop and tried to mind my own business before you started shouting at me. I'm just glad I had my cards and phone at the ready so we could both have memories to take away from these special, fleeting moments."
(For more videos, click to page three.)
Here's a guy creepily telling Lindsey he loves her dress.
"I might not find a comment about my fashion choices, or a simple hello, uncomfortable," she writes. "But this guy unexpectedly stepped out of a doorway, was up in my personal space and reached out to me to touch my arm as he said it, and gave me an intentionally long once-over while saying it."
Lindsey captured this businessman-looking guy saying, "Minnesota chicks are hot" as she walks by.
"You don't think women get dolled up and dressed up everyday to look good?" he asks her after being called out.
This guy thinks Lindsey is giving him her phone number when she's really serving him with a card directing him to CardsAgainstHarassment.com.
(For more videos, click to page four.)
In another incident, near The Wedge, a guy tells Lindsey she has beautiful blue eyes and says he wants to hug her. Once he's called out, he alleges Lindsey only singled him out because he's black and starts swearing at her.
"C'mon man, give me a break with that," he says.
This guy asks Lindsey if she's part of some sort of "modeling contest" in downtown Minneapolis.
"That is a tired pickup line, man. That's really lazy," she says.
A few minutes after dealing with "modeling contest" guy, Lindsey served another guy who told her, "You're fine, girl!"
(For more videos, click to page five.)
This clip captures this legendary quote: "I can smell your womanhood, 'cause I'm a wolf."
Finally, this clip features two guys hollering at Lindsey and another woman on a Metro Transit bus before things take a homophobic turn. The bus driver, to his credit, promptly quicks the two men off the bus:
To see Lindsey's anti-catcalling cards, click to page six.
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