This shouldn't be dragged out any longer. I think the process of giving these babies to their grandmother should start now. Maybe start out with regular weekly visits, then daily, then weekends, then weeks at a time until they work the adoptive parents out (unless both sides agree to allow the adoptive parents visitations, which would be nice). No offense to the adoptive parents, they have done a wonderful job and I applaud them, but I do believe that family members should get children who have been removed from their biological parents. It's not their skin...it's the fact that they are family. With that being said, I also believe that the children should not be "snatched" out of the only home and family they have ever known, which is why I stated above that it should be a process. I do believe that just taking children away would be absolutely horrifying to the babies emotionally, but if it is done slowly, I believe the children will be just fine; they would need just a little more love and attention at first as they fully acclimated to their new home and surroundings.
If these children are not given to their family, I think there could be problems in the long run, especially when these baby girls find out that their grandmother fought so hard for them, and that the reason they were not placed with their family was because of the Grosser's selfishness. There could be a lot of resentment later, so if you are reading this, Mr. and Mrs. Grosser, you should definitely consider that. These babies belong with their grandmother and family (and again I stress...placing the babies with Grandma should be done slowly as to not emotionally harm them).
I am the mother of five boys. My husband and I recently had my niece (my brother's daughter) placed with us for 10 months. She was taken from her parents because of the same thing; her parents are crack cocaine users and Rx drug abusers. For various reasons, we allowed my niece to go to foster care with the belief that she would be going home to her parents in just a few short months. That was the biggest mistake of my life. Turns out her parents will not change their ways, so we are now going to adopt my niece. Right now, she is with an African-American foster family and I have no problem with that at all. I know she is being properly cared for at the moment. And if I were not here to adopt my niece, I would not have a problem if the foster family loved my niece enough to want to adopt her...because I do not believe that skin color makes you who you are. That's just my opinion, I thought I would give it because it was mentioned in the article above.
At any rate, I hope to have my niece adopted and back in my home as soon as possible...because she will be having a new baby brother or sister soon who I will also be adopting (and unfortunately, it will be a cocaine-addicted baby). It will be hard on our family financially, physically, and emotionally to take on two additional children, as we have one who is 21 and in college, a 16-year-old, a 10-year-old, a 3-year-old, and a 7-month-old, but we will make it work...because we are family and belong together.
Good luck to you, Mrs. Dunning - I hope your grandbabies are with you soon. Much love.