Wingmen practice art of the pickup

Local Don Juans use Mystery Method

Boot camps at Love Systems cost $3,000 for the weekend, and Savoy claims to have trained more then 10,000 men in the art of the pickup. Copycats have sprouted up around the world, regularly teaching their own variants of the craft.

"To their credit, they're almost like scientists," says Los Angeles dating coach Evan Marc Katz. "Regardless of whether they're doing their science for good or evil, they're going out and trying different things."

Men in the Minneapolis pickup community swear that the teachings improve their lives, increasing their self-esteem and social skills. But the idea that men can follow rules like an algorithm to manipulate women has plenty of critics.

"I didn't get small talk," Brent says. "Flirting with women—it just looked completely nuts."
Kris Drake
"I didn't get small talk," Brent says. "Flirting with women—it just looked completely nuts."
"I still haven't quite figured out social interactions," Brent says. "Sometimes I feel like I'm from another planet."
Kris Drake
"I still haven't quite figured out social interactions," Brent says. "Sometimes I feel like I'm from another planet."

"There's already enough disconnection as there is in this world when it comes to love and relationships," says Kailen Rosenberg, a Minneapolis matchmaker. "And to me, this is just adding to that."

  

"IF YOU'RE GOING to get better, you're going to have to practice on a weekly basis," Brent explains to Emilio.

It's a few days after their pickup adventure at Drink, and Brent has agreed to meet Emilio at Southdale shopping center for a bit of one-on-one coaching in the art of approaching women.

"What are your goals?" Brent asks Emilio.

"Going to clubs Friday, Saturday, Sunday," Emilio says. "Trying to pick up somebody."

"You want to prove to yourself that you're the kind of guy who can pick up women?"

"That I can pick up the one I want," Emilio says, adding, "Every time somebody asks me to go to a club, I'm scared."

"That's something I can fix," Brent says.

Emilio looks doubtful. "I've had this for years."

"Would it blow your mind to know that it could just go away?" Brent asks, standing up. "Do you want to try some stuff?"

Emilio jumps to his feet, grinning nervously. "What do you want me to do?"

Brent proposes that Emilio ask shoppers for the time. The goal, he explains, is to start with something easy and work up from there.

The men head down the mall, passing a Lady Foot Locker. A girl with tan skin and wide brown eyes approaches.

"Hey!" Emilio calls out. "Nice boots! What brand are they?"

The girl looks a little startled, but recovers quickly. "North Face," she says, smiling.

"Oh, they are gorgeous," Emilio says, even though to all appearances the boots are rather ordinary. "Hey, do you know what time it is?"

"Quarter to eight," she says.

"Okay, great," Emilio says. "Thanks."

"No problem," she says, and glides away.

Brent and Emilio keep walking. They head toward Macy's.

"I called her 'gorgeous,'" Emilio says proudly.

"Why did you do all that other stuff?" Brent asks.

"Engage the conversation?" Emilio says.

"Ah," Brent says.

Brent and Emilio round a corner and stumble into the department store's cosmetics section. Emilio walks tentatively toward three brightly lipsticked women.

"Oh," he says awkwardly, as if he's never seen a makeup counter before. "What is this thing? Like, a place you get your makeup done?"

The trio of women looks at him as though he's from Mars. One folds her arms across her chest.

"Something like that," another says, condescension dripping from her voice.

"When can you have this done?" Emilio asks.

They look at him blankly.

"My girlfriend," he explains, "I have a girlfriend. This is something she would like. Do you have a business card?"

With the mention of the word "girlfriend," the clerks relax. One hands Emilio a business card.

"Thank you," Emilio says. "Do you have the time?"

Emilio returns to Brent, and they walk toward jewelry.

"How about trying just asking for the time?" Brent suggests, as they walk.

"Just the time?" Emilio asks.

"Just the time."

Emilio spots a shopper wearing oversized round glasses.

"Excuse me," he says, raising his voice. "Do you—"

"Nope, don't have the time!" she hollers, scurrying deep into the clothing racks.

Brent and Emilio laugh and take the escalator to housewares.

   

RENOVO'S ZEBRA-PRINT SCARF swirls around his neck like frosting on a fancy cake as he struts through Señor Wong in downtown St. Paul.

"Hey, man," Renovo says, clasping hands with the owner. "How's it going?"

Renovo removes his leather jacket and settles into a booth in the orange-walled dining area. It's quiet on this Thursday night—a perfect place to tell the story of his first pickup.

"The very first time, I was able to attract a very attractive woman," the 33-year-old says. "It's a night that still lives on in infamy."

Two years ago, he'd just gotten out of a nine-year relationship. Renovo and his buddy signed up for a singles convention out of town. She was the most beautiful girl there: skinny, 5' 10", D-cup breasts.

"She could have easily survived as a model," Renovo says. "Way out of my league."

When night fell and it was time for dancing, every guy in the room seemed to be circling her.

Not Renovo. He sat on the other side of the room, ignoring her.

Then, after making her wait, Renovo strode toward her and grabbed her hand. "Let's dance," he said.

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26 comments
Lilbwayne
Lilbwayne

Question: You're heading out for a boys' night, and your best friend asks you to be their Wing Man because tonight he wants to hunt a cougar. How do you adjust your game plan? Check out COUGAR HUNTING for pointers... http://on.fb.me/s12fjk

Sophia Green
Sophia Green

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BrendenShellfish
BrendenShellfish

The Drink is a terrible cesspool full of darshes, overly tanned egos, and just plain scummy people with one thing on their mind. There are so many better places to go have a good time in uptown other than this piece of garbage. Not to mention the bouncers think they are god's gift to this solar system. Seriously, I would love to see this place closed... Actually scratch that, keep it running so it magnetizes all the d-bags to its epicenter. That way they're out of my hair.

Renovo
Renovo

Disappointing. This article has only represented what exactly every other article on the pickup community has already stated: "losers want to bang chicks too". Of course from this standpoint, it would be easy to ridicule the men who practice the art of pickup. It would be easy for the readership to renounce the actions of these individuals as self-serving.

What it failed to capture is that most men I've met in the pickup community both locally and internationally do not learn the game so that they can maintain huge harems of women. They learn about the pickup community because they want to have the power to transform their lives. It's not just about having sex so much as it is about man transformation. How many people suffer their whole lives because they married the only option available to them? The men I've met in my journeys do not want to suffer a similar fate.

Not every man (or woman for that matter) has the blessing of being raised in a positive environment where children are taught to chase after their dreams without fear. Not every man is given the social training to be the funniest guy or the coolest guy in the class. I would be much quicker to shame the person that would ridicule a man who has enough courage to push himself beyond in own comfort zones and embarrass himself night after night so that he can make a positive change within his own life. How many of you internet gangsters can say you've done that much for your lives? If you don't agree, then stop applying makeup to your faces, stop going to the gym to build your pecs, hell..stop showering.

Yes, some of the methods may be crude. Yes, there are bad apples who only use these skills to manipulate women for sex. Yes, some of the so called 'gurus' are nothing but fakes and pay women to act a certain way as to aide their credibility. In every social group, there will be some percentage of misfits. However, at the core of the process, it is a process of a man correcting the mistakes he was taught by his own father, his own brothers, his own guy friends and most importantly, the women in his life. It takes a man of courage and character to be able to see that there is something wrong and to take the initiative to change that.

Dave Porter
Dave Porter

"So, like I've got this friend of mine [who's paid me a grand to 'teach him how to pick up girls'],and I'll, like, just be coming in here in about ten minutes, okay? And I'll give you the high sign to, like, flirt with him, okay? Nothing heavy here, just like, make his day for a minute or two, okay? There's fifty bucks in it for you gals, and your waiter here, Paul, he's holding it for you - right, Paul? That'll be enough for a nice buzz for all of you, and trust me, you'll never even see this guy again, because he's just a shy nerd, and all he wants is to feel like he's doing something right for once, okay? No problems, no commitments, just smile at him long enough to light him up, okay? Thanks a lot."

bronson
bronson

If you're a well-adjusted adult, The Drink on a Saturday night is an experience of horror and awe.

Dirty Blond
Dirty Blond

I am from Minneapolis and used to sarge Chino Latino and drink. a lot. I loved sarging women Uptown. Now I'm in L.A. on the front lines of the seduction community sarging with the likes of Ross Jeffries . . . below me, Debbie!

not a douche
not a douche

No way that Brent guy actually picks up decent women. If you look at the other pictures of him, he has a horrible bald spot, a huge paunch belly, and a really creepy looking smile. No way.

Oh
Oh

Nice Travis

NEMpls
NEMpls

Seriously, how could anyone fallow this crap.

Bob23
Bob23

This is a joke right?

sw
sw

Painful, petty reading. Would've gone down better with a spoonful of irony. Or relevance? It's a considerable step down from last week's cover story.Also, that is definitely Aura, not Drink.

The Black Hatter
The Black Hatter

Thanks for the article CityPages! We are an active, fun group of guys going out regularly trying to better ourselves and our skills with women. Come check us out at http://donjuancrew.com/

Dale Jadsworth
Dale Jadsworth

Brent is "epic, seriously record-breaking, good in bed," says his girlfriend Carolyn.........this is the worst quote I have ever heard. Man, he must be some type of god!

noodle
noodle

That's Restaurant Aura, not Drink.

Xander
Xander

I've met a handful of guys who were into this in AZ and MN. They mostly seemed like normal guys trying to understand women a bit better. I don't think this article paints the best picture...

Donovan
Donovan

Most of these methods are fun to hear but ineffective in the real world and make you WEIRD. I got the most natural and long-lasting results through a company called Attraction Methods, based out of LA, and taking a bootcamp (after a phone consultation) with lead coach "Magic".

YouTube something like "Attraction Methods". He's an Indian immigrant that really took things to the next level.

Don't waste your time with anything else!

Cooldudeluke
Cooldudeluke

wonderful piece about some truly inspiring people. Hats off to city pages for the great work. and hats off to those fellas for 'bedding' so many 'chicks'. im so proud of them. i want to meet them all in person so we can high five.

the only thing thats good about this story is that all the lame guys and gals in it are sticking to all the lame bars and away from places i frequent.

Lane Narrows
Lane Narrows

Yeah, this is a pretty garbage story. Not that it's poorly written. Just that winging is old news. And these guys are clearly D-Bags.Plus, what's with the inset graphic of Brent at the Uptown Cafeteria? He's record breaking in bed? Awesome.

What About Bob?
What About Bob?

I new a guy named "Crow" who dabbled in this game. Im surprised more women dont see through this. Corny lines, flare items and the thought that all women can be categorized........good luck.

Nathan
Nathan

Terrible. The Drink is a D-Bag bar. These guys sound like slim.....con artists at best.

CJ
CJ

This is the cover story for this week? The writing was crass and pretty schmaltzy. It makes these guys sound like a bunch of douches. I think there was a better way to write this. Is it a joke article? Also what's up with the caption about the guy's sexual prowess? What does that have to do with the article? Unless his opener is that he's hung like a donkey and stellar in bed. CP you've done better.

Nas
Nas

You're shallow

Cherish_mntc
Cherish_mntc

I think it's "hung like a horse" and "shits like a donkey".

 
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