Wingmen practice art of the pickup

Local Don Juans use Mystery Method

It's Saturday night at Drink in Uptown, and Brent—a.k.a. "Private"—is decked out in full Wingman regalia: dark gray T-shirt scrawled with the words "Honor" and "Virtue" atop a complex, twisting shield. Two steps away, Brent's protégé Emilio, a handsome dentist from Ecuador, surveys the scene.

A five-foot-tall dishwater blonde steps directly between the men. She totters a bit on her heels, right into Emilio's path. He sees the opening and pounces.

"Excuse me," Emilio says. "What is the first thing you notice about a man?"

The blonde looks over her shoulder at Brent, who towers a foot and a half above her. "The way he stands," she says decisively. "He stands relaxed, confident. That's a beautiful man. That's a man that you want."

Then she strides past Emilio and continues on her way.

Emilio's face droops beneath his backward newsboy cap as his shoulders slouch. "She doesn't want me."

The blonde wasn't even that pretty, Emilio quickly points out. Still, rejection stings.

"It's ego," he admits.

Brent, the 32-year-old computer programmer who has organized tonight's expedition, isn't going to let the interaction derail Emilio from reaching his objectives.

"Are you getting warmed up?" Brent asks.

"Yeah," Emilio says. "I'm just going to work on my posture."

"You know, that's a good suggestion for later," Brent says. "But right now, don't worry about that. Right now, it's all about getting in the mood—knowing that you're confident. You just relax. Make a game of it."

Emilio nods and swallows hard.

Brent picks out a table across the bar. A girl wearing a rich red pea coat chats on her cell phone, surrounded by three women in tight jeans. A skinny guy in a basic navy T-shirt sits sentry, but the outer edge of the table is wide open.

Brent nudges Emilio, who is 35 but looks no older than 28, toward the target.

"You can't do anything wrong," Brent says.

"What do I say?" Emilio asks.

Suddenly, a mysterious man who calls himself "Renovo" sweeps in. He's nominally hanging out with Brent and Emilio tonight, but he's spent most of his time chatting up women.

Renovo locks onto the table and struts across the room. He throws his arms wide and a beautiful girl with silky blond hair jumps into them.

"Oh," Brent says. "Renovo knows her."

When he's finally ready to take the plunge, Emilio strides over and greets the party of five. "He-ee-ey!" you can almost hear him announce from across the room.

Brent slides into the booth to watch the action. His girlfriend Carolyn, a preschool teacher with perfect skin and a quick wit, settles in for the show.

Across the bar, Emilio is talking at the table, but mostly to the lone guy. It's going well. The guy laughs and Emilio slaps him a high five. The women smile at Emilio, too.

"They're all looking at him," Carolyn says. "They're all listening to him."

The girl with the red coat is still on her cell phone. She's the heaviest girl at the table, Carolyn points out.

"You can be the fat girl," Carolyn says. "And you can be the skinny bitch. But you can't be the fat bitch.

"Trust me," she says wryly. "I'm the fat girl."

Red Coat hangs up her cell phone. She leans across the table toward Emilio and laughs at his joke.

A waitress comes by bearing orange and yellow shots. Emilio downs a round with the table, then pulls out his credit card. He takes two more shots from the waitress and hands one to Red Coat. Together, they throw back their heads and drink.

Fifteen minutes later, Emilio returns to Brent with a smile on his face.

"We talked about salsa dancing Saturday night," Emilio reports. "I said she should come out and look for me."

  

EMILIO IS A NEW initiate into the secret world of the Minneapolis Wingmen—a Meetup.com group that exists solely to help men mack on chicks.

It began a few years back, when a lonely computer programmer living in Minnesota read the 2005 cult classic The Game, by Neil Strauss. Bound like a black Bible and selling for $35 at Barnes & Noble, the tome explains the formulas for attracting women that Strauss learned by spending two years with Erik von Markovik, a.k.a. Mystery, a world-renowned seducer who starred in The Pickup Artist on VH1.

The Minnesota computer programmer was so taken with the techniques that Strauss laid out that in November 2008 he founded a local Meetup group for guys who wanted to go out and practice together. The group quickly grew to 146 strong.

In January 2009, another acolyte of pickup techniques created the Minneapolis Don Juan Crew, an online forum where guys share tactics and brag about their successes in "lay reports."

The Mystery Method involves memorized routines for opening a conversation and strategies like the "neg," a backhanded compliment designed to throw a pretty girl off-balance.

"We study a lot of psychology to get this stuff to work," says Nick Savoy, who co-founded the Los Angeles-based "Love Systems" with Mystery. "To go take a class in dating and attraction, you already have to be somebody who can put their ego aside, who is interested in self-help, who is ambitious with their life."

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Lilbwayne
Lilbwayne

Question: You're heading out for a boys' night, and your best friend asks you to be their Wing Man because tonight he wants to hunt a cougar. How do you adjust your game plan? Check out COUGAR HUNTING for pointers... http://on.fb.me/s12fjk

Sophia Green
Sophia Green

Hi cutie, Could you hit me up on--- RichFlirts.C'om---A dating club for successful, beautiful people.I am a smart&pretty gal. seeking a sweet man.pls Check out my username myshine,serious...

BrendenShellfish
BrendenShellfish

The Drink is a terrible cesspool full of darshes, overly tanned egos, and just plain scummy people with one thing on their mind. There are so many better places to go have a good time in uptown other than this piece of garbage. Not to mention the bouncers think they are god's gift to this solar system. Seriously, I would love to see this place closed... Actually scratch that, keep it running so it magnetizes all the d-bags to its epicenter. That way they're out of my hair.

Renovo
Renovo

Disappointing. This article has only represented what exactly every other article on the pickup community has already stated: "losers want to bang chicks too". Of course from this standpoint, it would be easy to ridicule the men who practice the art of pickup. It would be easy for the readership to renounce the actions of these individuals as self-serving.

What it failed to capture is that most men I've met in the pickup community both locally and internationally do not learn the game so that they can maintain huge harems of women. They learn about the pickup community because they want to have the power to transform their lives. It's not just about having sex so much as it is about man transformation. How many people suffer their whole lives because they married the only option available to them? The men I've met in my journeys do not want to suffer a similar fate.

Not every man (or woman for that matter) has the blessing of being raised in a positive environment where children are taught to chase after their dreams without fear. Not every man is given the social training to be the funniest guy or the coolest guy in the class. I would be much quicker to shame the person that would ridicule a man who has enough courage to push himself beyond in own comfort zones and embarrass himself night after night so that he can make a positive change within his own life. How many of you internet gangsters can say you've done that much for your lives? If you don't agree, then stop applying makeup to your faces, stop going to the gym to build your pecs, hell..stop showering.

Yes, some of the methods may be crude. Yes, there are bad apples who only use these skills to manipulate women for sex. Yes, some of the so called 'gurus' are nothing but fakes and pay women to act a certain way as to aide their credibility. In every social group, there will be some percentage of misfits. However, at the core of the process, it is a process of a man correcting the mistakes he was taught by his own father, his own brothers, his own guy friends and most importantly, the women in his life. It takes a man of courage and character to be able to see that there is something wrong and to take the initiative to change that.

Dave Porter
Dave Porter

"So, like I've got this friend of mine [who's paid me a grand to 'teach him how to pick up girls'],and I'll, like, just be coming in here in about ten minutes, okay? And I'll give you the high sign to, like, flirt with him, okay? Nothing heavy here, just like, make his day for a minute or two, okay? There's fifty bucks in it for you gals, and your waiter here, Paul, he's holding it for you - right, Paul? That'll be enough for a nice buzz for all of you, and trust me, you'll never even see this guy again, because he's just a shy nerd, and all he wants is to feel like he's doing something right for once, okay? No problems, no commitments, just smile at him long enough to light him up, okay? Thanks a lot."

bronson
bronson

If you're a well-adjusted adult, The Drink on a Saturday night is an experience of horror and awe.

Dirty Blond
Dirty Blond

I am from Minneapolis and used to sarge Chino Latino and drink. a lot. I loved sarging women Uptown. Now I'm in L.A. on the front lines of the seduction community sarging with the likes of Ross Jeffries . . . below me, Debbie!

not a douche
not a douche

No way that Brent guy actually picks up decent women. If you look at the other pictures of him, he has a horrible bald spot, a huge paunch belly, and a really creepy looking smile. No way.

Nas
Nas

You're shallow

Oh
Oh

Nice Travis

NEMpls
NEMpls

Seriously, how could anyone fallow this crap.

Bob23
Bob23

This is a joke right?

sw
sw

Painful, petty reading. Would've gone down better with a spoonful of irony. Or relevance? It's a considerable step down from last week's cover story.Also, that is definitely Aura, not Drink.

The Black Hatter
The Black Hatter

Thanks for the article CityPages! We are an active, fun group of guys going out regularly trying to better ourselves and our skills with women. Come check us out at http://donjuancrew.com/

Dale Jadsworth
Dale Jadsworth

Brent is "epic, seriously record-breaking, good in bed," says his girlfriend Carolyn.........this is the worst quote I have ever heard. Man, he must be some type of god!

noodle
noodle

That's Restaurant Aura, not Drink.

Xander
Xander

I've met a handful of guys who were into this in AZ and MN. They mostly seemed like normal guys trying to understand women a bit better. I don't think this article paints the best picture...

Donovan
Donovan

Most of these methods are fun to hear but ineffective in the real world and make you WEIRD. I got the most natural and long-lasting results through a company called Attraction Methods, based out of LA, and taking a bootcamp (after a phone consultation) with lead coach "Magic".

YouTube something like "Attraction Methods". He's an Indian immigrant that really took things to the next level.

Don't waste your time with anything else!

Cooldudeluke
Cooldudeluke

wonderful piece about some truly inspiring people. Hats off to city pages for the great work. and hats off to those fellas for 'bedding' so many 'chicks'. im so proud of them. i want to meet them all in person so we can high five.

the only thing thats good about this story is that all the lame guys and gals in it are sticking to all the lame bars and away from places i frequent.

Lane Narrows
Lane Narrows

Yeah, this is a pretty garbage story. Not that it's poorly written. Just that winging is old news. And these guys are clearly D-Bags.Plus, what's with the inset graphic of Brent at the Uptown Cafeteria? He's record breaking in bed? Awesome.

What About Bob?
What About Bob?

I new a guy named "Crow" who dabbled in this game. Im surprised more women dont see through this. Corny lines, flare items and the thought that all women can be categorized........good luck.

Nathan
Nathan

Terrible. The Drink is a D-Bag bar. These guys sound like slim.....con artists at best.

CJ
CJ

This is the cover story for this week? The writing was crass and pretty schmaltzy. It makes these guys sound like a bunch of douches. I think there was a better way to write this. Is it a joke article? Also what's up with the caption about the guy's sexual prowess? What does that have to do with the article? Unless his opener is that he's hung like a donkey and stellar in bed. CP you've done better.

Cherish_mntc
Cherish_mntc

I think it's "hung like a horse" and "shits like a donkey".

 
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