Three years after he started, he returned home for a visit, still having not made up his mind about his career. I was on a bus in the Philippines, he says, and I was thinking, I have to make this decision. He had been accepted to a PhD program in Berkeley, California, and was thinking of leaving social work. Suddenly, while he was in the midst of his reverie, the bus driver braked sharply, and Bordador was thrown against the glass.
The bus had braked for a kid whod jumped in its path. He was singing Christmas carols, begging for money, Bordador recalls. I thought, in that moment, there is so much suffering in the world. And in that moment, I knew I would be a social worker. It was more important. It was the way I could make the most difference.
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When he returned to America, he went back to Hunter to get a masters degree in social work. After he finished, his jobs took him out of the East Village and around all five boroughs, working with people with HIV, going into caves and subway tunnels to help the homeless.
He did eventually become a priestbut in the Episcopal Church, which allows gay clergy. But even after he finished seminary (for the second time) and was finally ordained, he never could bring himself to be a parish priest.
I have a problem with preacher perks, he says. Instead, he says, he models his career on the worker priest that came out of France in World War IIpriests who were simply supposed to go out into the world and be with people. (They never revealed they were priests, nor does he ever do so as a social worker.) He works during the week for a social welfare agency and, on weekends, is attached to a church in the West Village. When he visits the Philippines each year, he volunteers with an Episcopal chapel ministry that takes place atop a trash heap.
I like the idea of being a priest in the world, he says. I like preaching about my experiences in the pulpit. And I like that many people will know that I know what theyre going through: the struggles of a common person, struggles of losing a job due to a budget cutwhich recently happened to himof living paycheck to paycheck. Im glad I can relate.
Around the time he finally became a citizen, in 1997, he met his current boyfriend, whom he has been with ever since. Though he says he is still close to his kin in the Philippines, he has made his own family in this country.
Yes, Bordador still feels Filipino. But he says, I am proud to be a part of the United States, to be a citizen. He says its not just being gay, although that is great to be that here. I wouldnt be able to be very open in the Philippines.
But like so many other immigrants who have flocked to America since its inception, he knows what its like to grow up under authoritarian rule. I know I have a better chance of justice hereI feel very American in my thinking, in my accountability to society, in my accountability to other people, he says. I think thats very American.