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Comments (0) By Dan Savage Wednesday, Feb 28 2007

Maybe I just need to be single, whether I sleep with anybody or not. What should I tell him? Should I just wait it out? We're so close and I hate feeling this way.

Restless And Heartbroken

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You've convinced yourself that you can have this boy or you can have sexual adventures, RAH, a classic false choice. Who says you can't have this boy and sexual adventures, too? Okay, he might say you can't have him and sexual adventures, too—at least the kind that involve you putting a dick in your mouth that's not attached to him—but who knows? If you scrape up the courage to tell your wonderful boyfriend how you're feeling, you might find out that your boyfriend is anxious to do a little lurid adventuring, too. Or your might wind up alone. Either way, you'll wind up having your sexual adventures.

I read your column faithfully every week in the Orlando Weekly. But I need to ask two things. What does the abbreviation GGG stand for? And what was the website that you mentioned a while ago for men to meet transsexuals?

A Faithful Reader

GGG stands for "good, giving, and game," which is what we should all strive to be for our sex partners. Think "good in bed," "giving equal time and equal pleasure," and "game for anything—within reason." And that tranny website I mentioned was, I believe, www.freerepublic.com.

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