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When I was a promiscuous young man (read: straight college boy), I had lots of casual sex. I particularly loved anal sex. And I very particularly loved rough, unlubricated anal sex with those wonderful women who enjoyed the same. I swore that I would never be with a woman who didn't love anal.
But I am now dating a woman whom I love intensely and who is open to anal sex, but we just can't make it happen. Toys, fingering, eating ass, fucking—it all hurts her. She is a ballerina and, therefore, small with a tight frame. I know that you probably don't have some super-secret gay-guy ass-sex trick, but is there a best plan of action here? She wants to do it, but obviously neither of us wants to see her hurt. Please help. This is important to me.
Boy Wants Anal Action
Toys, if they're too big and ineptly employed, can hurt. Fingers, with their bony knuckles and sharp nails, can hurt. Fucking can hurt. But eating ass never hurt anyone. I mean, tongues and sparkling-clean buttholes go together like rama-lama-lama-ke-ding-a-de-dinga-a-dong.
So unless you're wearing a diamond-encrusted grill or you studied eating ass under Jeffrey Dahmer, there are only three plausible explanations for this baffling assertion, listed here in ascending order of plausibility: 1. Your tongue is four feet long and it irritates her esophagus when you rim her. 2. She's got a very serious medical condition—chronic fissures? terminal hemorrhoids? suppurating gunshot wound?—that she hasn't told you about because she doesn't want or need your damn pity. 3. She doesn't like anal and never will, but she's telling you what you want to hear.
But, hey, let's take her at her word: She wants it. So what can you do to make it happen? First, forget those women you met at college who liked their anal rough and unlubricated. (Where the fuck did you go to college? The University of North Carolina at Bloody Stool?) Most people—sober people, male and female people, people who want to live to get fucked another day—require tons of foreplay and gallons of lube before buttfucking. The foreplay can include rimming, fingers, vibrators, and the slow, sensuous application of lube—lots and lots of lube. Then, once everyone is nice and relaxed, you slowly penetrate your partner, giving his or her anal sphincters plenty of time to relax.
If you've been doing all this and it hasn't worked, well, then dating this dancer means going without anal.
My boyfriend and I have a problem with anal sex. We're gay, I'm a top, he's a bottom. He says my dick is too thick and that it makes him come too quickly. As soon as he comes he tenses up and we have to stop. I'm a loving guy, and although it sucks, I can deal with it—but what is causing it? Am I doing something wrong?
Boy's Irksome Girth
If your cock were "too thick," BIG, your boyfriend wouldn't be able to come when it was in his ass. He'd just lie there shrieking, "Get it out of me! Get it out of me!" That you can get it in, and that you can fuck him until he comes, is proof that you're not too big or too thick. You're just right.
The issue, it seems, is that your dick quickly pushes your boyfriend over the edge; perhaps, thanks to your girth, your dick slams his prostate in a way no other has. So what can you do? The next time you fuck, stay inside him after he comes—with his prior, written consent, of course—but cease all movement. He should breathe deeply, riding out his orgasm, and allowing his sphincters, which tensed up as he came, to begin to relax. Once his orgasm subsides and his ass calms down, you should be able to start fucking him again—but very slowly, just like you would at the start.
I think my 13-year-old brother is gay.
I came home from school this past Christmas to visit my family. One night I turned on my MacBook to check e-mail and there was no battery left. I plugged it in and once it was on I was shocked. There were pages of gay porn displayed on my screen. Hoping it was some freakish virus, I downloaded HistoryHound and sought out every webpage accessed on my computer. The results showed other similar entries every time I came home for a holiday.
Only one person might have gone down to the basement to use my computer: my brother. I didn't say anything to our parents, and I didn't talk to him about it either, because I didn't know what to say. If it were straight porn, I would probably have just told him that he shouldn't be looking at material like that, and it would be done. But the deeper I looked, the more disturbed I became. On the sites he accessed, I found violent porn with themes of rape and domination.
I know this kid has a good heart and shows a lot of love to everyone he knows, but how do I talk to him about this without him feeling ashamed? Moreover, how do I address the violent porn? And finally, what should I do as his brother?
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