Savage Love

As for the clenched-butt fuckwits who think these guys had it coming because they're into BDSM, I can only say this: What's on your internet-browser history, motherfuckers? Do you really have no kinks at all? Never spotted a kinky personal ad that you were tempted to respond to? Would you come off smelling like a rose if your fantasy life was spread all over the internet? Have a little sympathy, motherfuckers. It could've happened to you.

You recently spoke of transsexual men (FTM) in a somewhat benevolent manner. However, you made a very uneducated statement with regards to transsexual women. You stated that the only male-to-female transsexuals you know are heterosexual men who went through the transition and became lesbians afterward.

I am a 27-year-old black woman. I also happen to be a pre-op transsexual, with a goal of sex-reassignment surgery. I am out to most of my family and they are very supportive of me. I grew up from the age of 5 knowing that I felt and identified as female. I have literally been able to pass as female from the age of 10. At 12, I knew I was into men. But never have I felt attracted to a gay man. And never has a gay man felt attracted to me.

Your statement about only knowing male-to-female transsexual lesbians makes me think maybe you need to do some learning about human sexuality!

Disappointed In Savage

I hear you, DIS, but I don't think you heard me. I'm aware that MTFs come in all flavors—gay identified, straight identified, lesbian, bi, etc.—but in that column we were discussing the phenomenon of lesbians in their 20s, 30s, and 40s suddenly realizing that they're transsexuals and making the transition as adults, a phenomenon that is causing some consternation in the lesbian community.

"The reason there's no imbroglio in the gay community is because adult gay men rarely, if ever, decide to change their gender," I wrote in the column you're referring to. "I've never known a single adult gay man who decided to run off and become a woman. The only men I've known who changed their gender as adults were heterosexually identified men who now identify as lesbians."

Your experience illustrates an additional point that I should have paused to make, DIS: Most MTFs who identify as straight women transition in adolescence. That doesn't seem to be the case with FTMs.

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