Savage Love

Still, it couldn't hurt to ask: Leave another note and confess your desire to have one of his dirty jock straps. Don't include money, but do offer to pay him something—you know, for the cost of the jock strap and a little for his trouble. (Which will come to more than $20.) You'll still be asking him to take a more active role in your fantasy (which might be a problem—he seems to get off on working you up), but he's likelier to say yes if you can avoid making him feel like he's working for you.

I wanted to say thanks for your donation to Planned Parenthood. I have always been pro-choice in concept, but other issues, like the environment, ranked higher on my political agenda. However, earlier this year I was faced with an unplanned pregnancy. I was grateful to have a choice and to be able to make a decision based on what was the best thing for me, my partner, and my two children.

When I talked to my doctor, she was supportive, but I was surprised to learn that I would not need a referral and that my insurance would not be covering anything. All I needed to do I was make an appointment at Planned Parenthood. I had imagined Planned Parenthood to be a last refuge for teenagers and the uninsured, not for me at this point in my life. Without Planned Parenthood, my ability to choose would have evaporated. Considering the nonstop efforts to shut Planned Parenthood down, even here in liberal Tucson, I find this very frightening.

Thank you for your battle to protect sexual and reproductive rights—you've helped me wake up to what's at stake.

Grateful Tucson Girl

Thanks for sharing, GTG, and thanks for the strokes.

But making a donation to Planned Parenthood isn't heroic—really, anyone can do it. Just write out a check to Planned Parenthood, put it in an envelope, and mail it to Planned Parenthood Federation of America, 434 West 33rd Street, New York, New York, 10001, or go to and make a donation online. In Canada, send checks to the Canadian Federation for Sexual Health, 1 Nicholas Street, Suite 430, Ottawa, Ontario, K1N 7B7, or go to

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