Savage Love

Your brother needs help--not because he's a foot fetishist, SWNS, there's nothing wrong with that. He needs help because he's obviously developed--through absolutely no fault of yours--a thing for abusing, manipulating, and terrorizing women. Your continued silence in the face of this abuse isn't helping you or your brother, SWNS, but making it more likely that he will attempt this with other women one day. If your brother doesn't get help NOW he's either going to wind up in jail or dead on the bedroom floor of a woman who sleeps with a gun under her pillow.

Kudos to you for your love of the Dresden Dolls. But check them out live if you get the chance! There's nothing more enjoyable than hearing the lyrics in "Coin-Operated Boy" change from "I can even take him in the bath" to "I can even fuck him in the ass" during the live show. Brilliant!


Thanks for the heads up, Corey, but I discovered that the Dresden Dolls change "I can even take him in the bath" to "I can even fuck him in the ass" during their live shows all on my own. I love them so much I bought their live CD, which I took home and listened to while my 7-year-old son was in the room. This resulted in me having to explain to him what "fuck him in the ass" meant 18 years earlier than I had planned. (Where's Tipper Gore when you need her?) Still, I love the Dresden Dolls, and anyone who wants to see the Dresden Dolls change that lyric live should check out their website,, for their upcoming tour dates in the U.S. and Canada.

Finally, a lot of readers--smokers and nonsmokers alike--took exception to my advice for the woman whose boyfriend has a smoking fetish. Go to to read their feedback.

Dan Savage's new book, The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family, goes on sale September 22.

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