Savage Love

While the religious right's war on gay people gets all the headlines, their war on straight rights gains ground daily. They've destroyed sex education in this country, undermined abortion rights, and successfully prevented emergency contraception from being made available over the counter. Now they're going to block the HPV vaccine. Why? Because the American Taliban would rather see sexually active women dead than vaccinated.

Hello, straight people? If you don't want to live in a world where you need a license from the likes of Bridget Maher to have sex, premarital or otherwise, you had better start speaking up. Most of you seem content to merely rubberneck while gay people have the shit kicked out of us, and while that's maddening, I suppose it's understandable. It's not your fight. But what explains your passivity when your own rights are being attacked?


I contracted my first STD: gonorrhea. I got treated and I'm fine. My concern is about the guy who gave it to me. If he were just a random trick, I'd forget about it. But he's actually a nice guy. Should I tell him? If so, any suggestions on how I go about telling him?

Gay Boy


There's a chance this nice guy may not know he has gonorrhea, GB. If a guy's cock is infected, he'll usually experience a burning sensation during urination and discharge pus; if his ass is infected, his asshole will be coated with pus. But a man can have gonorrhea in his throat without experiencing any symptoms at all; on rare occasions gonorrhea in the dick or butt is also asymptomatic. If he has gonorrhea and doesn't know it, he needs to seek treatment before he infects anyone else or before his infection spreads to his bloodstream and wreaks havoc on his joints, skin, and heart. So tell him.

How do you tell him? Try this: "After we slept together I came down with gonorrhea and I'm pretty sure I got it from you. I'm not angry and I swear to God I won't gossip about this and I don't think any less of you as a person. I'm calling because I care about your health. Please go see a doctor."

If he really is a nice guy, GB, he'll thank you. If he reacts badly, well, then he's not a nice guy. But you can take comfort in the fact that you are.

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