Savage Love

So what do you do? You go see a doctor, get tested for HIV and everything else, and ask if it's not too late to take an emergency course of HIV medications. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recently advised doctors to start making a month-long course of anti-retroviral drugs available to people who are accidentally exposed to HIV. (It used to be made available only to medical personnel who were exposed to HIV on the job.) Josh Bamberger of the San Francisco Department of Public Health said this to the Associated Press about the CDC's new recommendations: "If you had unsafe sex while you were drunk or had a condom break, you should take these medicines." Sounds like you, SACK.

Finally, while plenty of guys have been exposed to HIV under the circumstances you describe, there are plenty of guys out there who have had a condom break on them and didn't wind up with HIV. To save yourself from this kind of anxiety in the future, you should reserve anal sex for guys you know and trust. There are plenty of other things you can do with a 22-year-old Cirque du Soleil performer, SACK.


You mention quite often in your column the importance of couples being open to one another's sexual interests. Usually these interests are way out there. My issues are completely mundane. I would like more foreplay, in the form of my boyfriend paying more attention to my boobs. Thirty minutes of tongue kissing only makes me sleepy. I have tried to talk to him about it but he becomes incredibly angry and defensive, and tells me I'm being insensitive. "I don't think you're insensitive for wanting me to suck your dick," I tell him. "But you LIKE to suck my dick," he says. I have just about had it. Any advice?

Sensitive Boobs Need Lovin'


Yes: DTMFA. And if you're just joining us, SBNL, DTMFA stands for "dump the motherfucker already," which is what you need to do. Your boyfriend is a rude, insensitive asshole, and doesn't deserve to have a girlfriend who likes to suck dick. DTMFA.

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